Learning To Accept The Good

Accepting good or great things into your life is harder than you think. One of my biggest wishes has been granted and I’m finding it hard to accept. Sounds funny, right? It’s not.

I strongly believe that “what I ask for is given” on an intellectual basis. But there is a gap in believing something intellectually and having this go cellular or become embodied. As much as I have wanted to understand and embody that what I ask for is given and to be able to accept these good things into my life effortlessly (for this to go cellular) it has not yet happened. I still find myself surprised when good things happen. I ponder how to fully and effortlessly accept good into my life. 

The gap I recognize may be because I have not taken any conscious action, haven’t deeply explored what it will take for this to go cellular. My writing this very newsletter is my exploration and action I am embarking on to deeply explore my embodiment of receiving good and that my thoughts create my reality.

Over the years, I have witnessed my wishes come into reality over and over again. I’ve done the research, neuroscience, psychology, behavioral biology… you name it and find little on the topic of interest to me about the steps to create this embodiment specifically. The intersection of neuroscience and eastern philosophy explains how slowing down allows for release of fears and the reversal of stress that changes our cells and DNA. (This is how I got rid of my 50+ allergies.) Psychology lays out how attachments (likes and dislikes) create resistance, anxiety and depression. And the science of mindfulness explains the emptiness, the calm that has been revealed to me.

However, what is the science behind creating new possibilities and embodying or effortlessly accepting good into your life.

Recently, I have slowed down. I have used yoga and meditation to go deep and let go of my attachments, my fears - this was liberating and freeing. What I’m truly left with is an emptiness. Seems now, what I wish for is amplified, there is less noise or interference in my mind. This is manifesting in front of my eyes as me getting what I wish for.

I realize the slowing down and facing my fear, allowed a fierceness to surface. The fire in the fierceness transformed something deep inside. It burned off the false desire and has allowed me the time to understand what I am truly looking for and recognize it in front of me. 

This very process of positive disintegration is a process of breaking down the old concepts, the fears, my values, and priorities of myself. Instead of resisting, I allowed the fire within me to surface.  This is a necessary prerequisite for creating new possibilities.

Negativity bias (a natural human tendency) obscures the positive aspects of our lives, like a cloud overshadowing the sun. Without directly focusing on reversing my bias, I realized that my recent slowing down, placing a conscious, relentless and deliberate focus on accepting myself as I am, being happy about my life now, and without agenda engaging in acts of kindness and giving to others has effortlessly reversed my bias, opened me to new possibilities, and created a keenly positive outlook.

Lastly my prayer has given me the insight to unconditionally open my heart and mind. This willingness to opening my heart to receiving is hard to understand. It’s a felt sense of opening in my chest, and my mind. I almost lose my conscious connection to my body and let go. Wow, is this powerful and a necessary part of allowing.

What I have found is life’s beauty is in its unpredictability. Change is constant and many events can transform who we are and impact our lives. These constant changes we’ve been through, can predispose us to developing a strong negativity bias that creates more negativity in our lives.

 Our own wisdom gives us the ability to slow down, recognize and consciously chose to cultivate an acceptance of whatever comes, a willingness to be open and embrace it. Tools like yoga and meditation help us to increase acceptance of what is, which is where we begin to shift or rewire our brains. As yogi’s have long understood, focusing inward and allowing the energy to move and ignite (through accepting and allowing) the fire stimulates the burning away of the false desires and revitalizes our heart and minds. The fire is a purification that frees us from negativity and our old habitual ways to make room for new possibilities and the good to come.